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Nichi · May 28, 2011, 10:02:07 PM

I found it annoying at work the other day, when one of my dad's coworkers tried to tell me that going to college would be better for me than having a girlfriend. If I had to choose between being alone but having a PhD or cleaning bedside commodes but having someone by my side to give a shit about me cleaning shit, I'd take the latter.

Krizonar · May 28, 2011, 10:08:30 PM

Katarina's like that too, she views education more important than a relationship. Which I guess is ok, because we can always just be in one later, we obviously like each other, but it is a bit discouraging...

Nichi · May 28, 2011, 10:11:31 PM

Of course, the guy who said that went through a rough divorce, so obviously he's not the go-to person for relationship advice (His usual advice is "Don't waste your time with women; work on a car or go to college")

Dr. Kraus · May 28, 2011, 11:35:09 PM

Quote from: Krizonar on May 28, 2011, 10:08:30 PM
education more important than a relationship.

This right here, the sole reason why I have a hard time talking to my parents about relationships

"Hey, Kraus, have you got a girlfriend yet?"

"No."

"Why not?"

"I have my own reasons"

"If you act like that you'll never get a girlfriend..."

"Whatever."

I know my dad would bust my chops about it and my mom wouldn't think its the right path I should be taking but hanging out alot with people does have an effect on me. I used to hang out with people all the time at the beginning of the year, my grades and attitude were at its peak but when I started to hang out with them less and less, I started to let my grades slip a bit. I guess I have to admit that I tend to be a bit lonely because I haven't hung out with anyone in a while, one of my friends has shut himself out quite a bit because he wants to start concentrating on collage (His older brother is a Soviet-child prodigy whom he gets to follow his achievements while I'm stuck setting the example) and another just plays TF2 all night, when he gets home he is playing from 4:00 PM to around 5:00 AM which he then wakes up at 6:00 AM and he only talks about TF2 experiences. I had a really good friend whom I was really close to but we had a fight which caused a fall out, most of my friends tend to hang out with him because he is wealthy.

Shit, who am I kidding? I'm just a lonely SOB...

sorry if I went out on a rant here, don't mind me.

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Krizonar · May 28, 2011, 11:49:08 PM

I just wish she shared my views about those two things.

To me, she is my motivation to get education, a relationship would make me feel motivated more and feel better about myself. She thinks it'd get in the way and distract her (which is mainly the sole reason we're not official), I think the opposite.

Chocofreak13 · May 29, 2011, 12:10:31 AM

as with most things in life, moderation is the key. for example, when they say "go to college instead of getting a girlfriend", they might mean for you to go to college THEN get a girlfriend.
there are, of course, the people who take it too far, such as those who throw themselves so far into their studies they block out the outside world, or those that forsake everything and run off with some floozy. :\

when it all comes down to it, it's YOUR life. don't let anyone tell you how to live it. ><;

Nichi · May 29, 2011, 07:20:06 AM

Quote from: Chocofreak13 on May 29, 2011, 12:10:31 AM
when it all comes down to it, it's YOUR life. don't let anyone tell you how to live it. ><;

Exactly. After all, a wise narrator once said "The great ones have granted you a sword, to cut your own path"

You know, I haven't played any of the Soul Calibur games in years...

Bella · May 29, 2011, 02:42:06 PM

@Kraus: Don't apologize, and don't feel badly either - I know exactly how you feel. : (

By my nature I'm a pretty social person but have a hard time actually keeping friends, and I think this may contribute to some of my... personality quirks. (Unless those quirks are what drive people away, or it's some sort of vicious circle of weirdness driving people away and having fewer friends making me weirder-acting... ehh...)

At this point I've sort of given up, even though my family's always saying "oh, you'll make more friends once you're in school again"... totally ignoring the fact that I intend on taking my sweet time to get into college, and will probably end up being older than most of my classmates by the time I start. =.='

As for dating, they don't want me doing it until I'm done with school. Again, ignoring the fact that might be five or six years from now. In their defense, it is pretty much common knowledge that I'm asexual/aromantic - I don't think anyone among my family knows that I experience sexual or romantic feelings at all, nobody's ever inquired and it seems to be a nonissue for the most part. Which is kind of how I like it, since my feelings on the matter are incredibly personal and complex and difficult to explain. -v-

Chocofreak13 · May 29, 2011, 02:48:40 PM

my family doesn't really ask.

for some reason my dad tried to comment on my love life earlier today. that was kinda awkward. .___.;

Nichi · May 29, 2011, 03:04:53 PM

I thankfully don't have family asking me, unless it's a relative I haven't seen in a long time.

Chocofreak13 · May 29, 2011, 03:07:45 PM

the only things my family pester me about is school and getting a job. :\ i'm the youngest on this side, so i think they still see me as the baby. :\

Bella · May 29, 2011, 07:24:06 PM

I just talked with Stewart-kun over the phone. Sounds like he's having fun with his new job, even though it involves wearing heavy old uniforms and uncomfortable shoes and being outside in the heat for hours at a time. .w.

He also asked what was going on at OSC, so told him... he couldn't believe having children came up in /Topicless again, and couldn't believe that most of you guys want to have kids... lol...

NejinOniwa · May 29, 2011, 07:33:57 PM

ITS THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT, AND AN AUTHOR IS AT LARGE. ANYTHING CAN HAPPEN!

Greets to stew, btw. -w-

Nichi · May 29, 2011, 07:48:34 PM

Good to hear stew's enjoying his job. I wish I could still enjoy mine, but by current boss makes that hard...

Chocofreak13 · May 29, 2011, 07:55:34 PM

@bells: actually, out of about 8 active users, only about 3 expressed the desire to eventually have kids. :\ and out of them, i think i'm the only one who's actually planning to go through with it. xD
@nej: will wait for results, master! >:3
@pentium: just pray every night for someone to smite him, and eventually something will happen.....

i keep forgetting to post this, and this probably would work better in the member picture thread, but here it is anyway:
A BRAIN TEASER FOR YOU:
i'm half swedish, half american, but a swiss citizen......
anyone who can explain that gets free art once my scanner arrives. -w-